Hopefully, you have a list or at least one goal that you are trying to attain.
That goal should be specific, measurable and have a deadline.
Do you know why?
Having a written goal with all the details above eliminates confusion and makes your life easier when decisions have to be made.
Don’t you want an easier life?
How Not to Set Goals
Goal: Lose 10lbs.
Situation: Sally starved herself and lived on shakes until she lost 10lbs. The day after she confirmed that she lost 10lbs she ate an entire pizza to celebrate. In a matter of weeks, Sally gained all the weight back.
Reality: Sally achieved her goal! She wanted to lose 10lbs, and she did. Once that was accomplished she was free to go back to whatever weight she was or even more.
How To Set Strong Goals
Goal: Lose 10lb of unnecessary fat by doing fun and different exercises, eating healthy foods that I love, and enjoying the entire process. I will lose 10lbs or better by May 10th and keep the weight off for no less than 10 years. Losing the weight will mean I will have 50% more energy, sleep better than I am, have better sex, and be able to spend quality time with my children while showing them that living a healthy life is fun and easy to do.
Why the Goal: Not losing the weight means that I will be slow and sluggish, my children will copy my eating habits and will be unhealthy, unhappy, and struggle with self-esteem and their weight. It will mean I won’t be intimate with my husband because I will be self-conscious about my body, I will be depressed and unhappy every time I dress or undress, and I will die young and not spend my golden years with my family.
Goals can be written in any way you’d like. Put details into it. Put emotions into it. Make sure the benefits of long-term and short-term pain and pleasure are written out. You want a strong WHY for what you are doing. When days are hard, your goal written in this way is meant to push you past the pain and the fear into a better-envisioned future.
This is how a strongly written goal works to make life simpler.
Based on the above goal, Sally goes to a party. Her favorite food is there and everyone is eating it and moaning in pleasure.
Sally recalls her goals. Will eating this food take her to her goal that she wants or will it lead her to the negative consequences. Given the negative consequences are strong (they affect her children and their future as well as her own), she can resist the food by associating the negative consequences with the consumption of the food! Eating it would no longer provider her pleasure, eating it would recall all the potential pain in her future!
Review your current goals. Are they compelling? If you had a hard choice to make, would your current goals lead you in the direction you want?
If your current goals are not compelling with pleasure and pain, I suggest rewriting them now!
Mindset ready! Go!