What exactly is holding you back from pursuing your goals?
Or from doing the daily actions that will get you where you want to go?
It isn’t what you think.
How do I know? Because we, people in general, lie to ourselves all the time. We are really very good at it. We don’t even know we are doing it.
Before we go much further, I need you to accept this truth: Your mind wants you to be right. If you say you are unlucky, your mind is going to show you all the many ways you are unlucky. Whatever you believe, you are guaranteed to find evidence to support it. Anything that doesn’t, you’ll either ignore it or dismiss it with some excuse.
We have a set standard for excuses:
No money/not enough money/too costly/can’t afford it
No time/too busy
Timing is wrong/later would be better/just not right now
I can do it on my own/I don’t need help/I’ve got this
Sound familiar? Yeah, we’ve all used those.
How do you separate the things that aren’t truly right for you to do and those opportunities that are exactly what you need, but fear is keeping you from moving forward?
Here is a set of question to help you navigate through –
Would you do it if money wasn’t an issue? If your response is anything but yes or no – meaning just the thought of having the money to do it sends you into a tailspin of making excuses – then you know it isn’t about the money.
How much time would it take to do this? Specifically. How much time a month, week, day? What are you doing that isn’t productive (think TV) that you would be able to stop in order to get this done.
When would be the right time? If the only answer you have is later – it is an excuse. If you have a specific time – after the kids are grown, after the holidays, etc., get out your calendar and write it down that on this day specifically, after the event is past, you’ll start.
Sub-question: If you missed this opportunity because you decided to delay, would you future be richer or poorer? If you think, it won’t matter – ask yourself why it wouldn’t matter?
If you are bootstrapping – doing it all on your own, refusing help, insistent that you can do it on your own, are you making measurable progress? Are you where you thought you’d be by now? If you could accelerate your results 2x, would that make an impact in your life?
(and if you answer it is the money, go back to the first question!)
Hope this helps you decide whether you are delaying for ‘real’ reasons or for other reasons.