The Gap: Who You Are Now and Who You Want To Be

If you have a goal, a BIG Goal that you want to achieve, there currently exists a gap between where you are now and who you want to be.

That Gap takes a number of forms:

  • The body you have and the one you want
  • The health you are in now and the optimal health you want
  • Where you live now and where you want to live
  • The money you have now and the money you want to have
  • The relationship status you have now and the one you want

The differences can be so overwhelming to some that they lose their motivation to succeed.

I don’t want that to happen to you, so here are a few things you can do to bridge the gap.

First, you need to examine how big the gap is. This isn’t an excuse to beat yourself up or feel bad about yourself. In fact, disassociate yourself from this. (That just means, in your mind see everything as if as a 3rd party or on a movie screen. There shouldn’t be emotions, just awareness). Write down where you are now and where you want to be.

Next, to reduce overwhelm, have a 3-step plan to get you where you want to go. If you go into too much detail, you’ll feel that it is too big a project and get despondent. Nope, we are going to avoid that and chunk everything into 3 steps.

Example:  I weigh 200lbs. I want to weigh 100lbs. Step one,  eat healthily. Step two, find an exercise regimen that I like and do it 5x a week. Step 3, celebrate every 10 I lose.

Doesn’t that seem more manageable?

Next, journal as if you have already achieved your goal and you are that person. You need to ‘see’ yourself as the person you want to become. That vision is what will drive you when you flag in your determination.

Try these prompts:

I am…

I believe…

I have…

If your monkey mind is having fits when you write the “I am” or any of the prompts, Try “Why do I…”

What I mean by the monkey mind having fits is that when you write a statement as if you are already there, your little voice screams, “Lies, you aren’t that way! No, No!” or anything close to that, the “Why do I…” afformations can help quiet that stuff down.

That journaling exercise should be something that you do daily. If you can’t manage daily, add the image of yourself to your mediation routine. And if you tell me you don’t have time to meditate, then when you are in the shower, close your eyes and imagine yourself at the end of your goal.


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